This is an interesting concept. If someone starts hormones and transitions and lives 24/7 365 days a year as a woman are they truly women? Basically is this enough? This question was posed by someone on another blog in reference to comments made about a guest post made by one calling themselves Sable on her blog and possibly on my blog. As long as the person has not previously self identified as a transvestite I would have to qualify them as transsexual.
Qualifying as transsexual does not automatically qualify you as a woman (MTF). All it qualifies one for is the label of transsexual and hopefully the path to their freedom through surgery. This may or may not be a minor position change for me but in order to be true to Harry I must allow for this situation. Some transsexuals may not want surgery but what this does is qualify them as transsexual forever since they have not become the other sex. They can never be qualified as female because they have male parts. It may seem cruel to some but this is a line that needs to be drawn in my opinion.
The problem I see for these non-op transsexuals is they are transsexuals for life. How can they assimilate into life as women when they are hindered my still owning their male bits? This is where the issues involving those of us that had SRS and consider ourselves "just" women and those that made a conscious decision not to have surgery come about. The claimants, non-op transsexuals, protest and state they are the same as us and thus women "because" they were born transsexual as we were.
In order to be a woman one can no longer be transsexual since by its very definition it implies we believe we belong to the opposite sex whether it is from total psycho sexual inversion or the proverbial woman trapped in a man's body. It implies the changing of ones sex by definition or certainly by meaning. Those that adhere to the process become women. Those that deny the process whether by decision or for financial or medical reasoning will always be transsexual. Once surgery is completed the transsexual condition no longer in in existence.
Now what has happened is the non-op transsexuals have joined forces with the Transgender Borg and have attempted to coerce all transsexuals to accept the transgender umbrella. Assimilation is not an option just like the Star Trek Borg stated. It is good for the whole which are the one. That even includes those of us that have gotten on with our lives and are just another woman in society. I always thought that was the goal of all transsexuals but I guess not. They not only want to assimilate transsexuals they want to force us to be considered transsexual for our entire lives just like them.
It seems the assimilation means we no longer are allowed to be true to ourselves and just be women. The irony of this position is exacerbated by the opinions of some that we have forgotten where we came from which is pathetic when coming from some 62 year old man that just started hormones and transitioned after being a transvestite his entire life. The real problem is these assholes have absolutely zero idea what it was like for kids like me because they never lived it. They imagined it in their minds because if they had lived what I lived through they would not have made it to a late life transition and they would never have married a woman. In actuality we are like night and day or apples and oranges. I existed to be a woman. They existed to be transsexual. Big, very big difference.
I am also pragmatic about my life as a woman. I knew it would be difficult to find a man that could love me for the woman I am. I also cannot hold it against those that cannot. The men that have truly loved me always thought of me as a girl or woman even if I was attempting boy badly and they witnessed it. It is what I am and always was, a girl, a woman.
I would never try and force myself onto men demanding they accept me. They either would or would not accept me. You cannot demand acceptance and it is as much fear and disbelief as it is anything. The only man I told that had a bad reaction was Enrique and it was ugly and it was hurtful and it was my fault because I was afraid to tell him and he found out. Later in life we became friends again and he said he was so shocked and in such disbelief he felt betrayed and that was my fault. I never felt I was a complete woman until after SRS.
This is one of the reason I have a very difficult time with these non-op trans lesbians making such a stink because natal born lesbians reject them because they have a penis. What do they expect to happen? Do they honestly expect they will be accepted by other than the rare few, if any? They claim these lesbians are transphobic and denying their gender identity. I see it as lesbian woman demanding their right to only have a lesbian sex partner than is actually physically female.
Why is it we heterosexual women do not scream the same thing about men that refuse to accept us. Maybe it is because we really are women and those "male" lesbians are still just plain men. Men do not like to be denied their little fantasies and as lesbians should know men seem to love lesbians. I always find it humorous when one of these nimrods claims it will not be a sexual relationship. Funny thing is my lesbian friends think all their relationships are sexual, at least at first. After all why do we date. Okay, I did like the free dinners and movies and admit it.
The is nothing worse than a man that has been scorned and denied his fantasy. Infantile reactions are what come to mind. I would find it interesting for some lesbian packing male bits to explain to me how this lesbian sexual relationship would work when one has a penis and the other a vagina. Last time I checked I think that is defined as heterosexual sex but this is a weird new world we live in. I cannot imagine the utter shock a lesbian would endure if they went to bed with what they perceived as a lesbian and found them packing a penis. Now that would be an interesting "Crying Game" moment.
I will attempt to be more understanding of non-op transsexuals but there is a limit to that understanding.