Almost all of my friends have no clue about my past. There are a few but that was related more to their very close friendship and relationship with my late husband and in all honesty I felt the wives had to be told because men cannot keep a secret. It is one of those gotchas we all face when trying to live as ourselves.
There are other friends of my husband from the US Navy that never and will never know but they were and still are close friends. This time of year in North Carolina is a great time to come south and play golf as the north cools. The courses are not crowded and we have an amazing cadre of wonderful and amazing public golf courses ranging from Pinehurst to the many around Charlotte which is close to my residence.
One particular couple arrived last evening in the Charlotte area early last evening and I do miss my friends from up North and there was no way they were staying in a Motel so I have House guests. The man flew F-4 Phantoms in the Navy along my late husband and is totally retired after a long Naval career while his wife is an Editor for a large rather liberal publishing concern.
If there is one thing I have learned over the years about ex fighter jocks it is they are channel flippers when it comes to television. My girl friend and I were chatting away in the living room while he watched his football game and then the channel flipping began until I heard "holy shit look at this". The other thing men can find quickly is porn. It must be genetically ingrained in them at birth.
I do not have any porn channels unless one considers shows on HBO, MAX, and other cable channels as porn and some actually are. There on the beautiful 60" HD television staring back at me and chatting away was a porn star named "Vanity" proudly described as a "transsexual" with a rather large dick. The show was something called "Pornucopia" and it was about fetish porn. Vanity has proudly decided to keep her dick and of course all her followers are "straight men". I would have loved to have been able to say "bullshit" because all her male followers are just latent homosexual male tranny chasers. The she-male is the wet dream they go to sleep dreaming of.
I really wanted to grab the controller and change the channel but before I could "dear" vanity described how many of her "straight" men friends willingly gave her blow jobs and other things I guess. Last time I was steaming and before I could say anything my Editor girl friendly said she was surprised they could use transsexual because GLAAD had informed her it was not a word they approved of. In fact she said many considered transsexual offensive. By the way if it is your want simply Google "Vanity porn star" for more information but I will not post a link here. Vanity is as transsexual as my cat who is convinced he is a dog.
I was not going to say anything so I steamed quietly and brought in one of my portables that is wireless and booted it in living room and went to the GLAAD website. If what my friend said was true I was about to go off on GLAAD and probably write a scathing email to them which would have been like a gnat trying to fuck an elephant, basically useless.
One thing I have to add is my concern over the mere attempt by GLAAD to represent transsexuals or even the transgendered. They are a gay organization and since the majority of transsexuals are heterosexual members of the sex they were denied at birth and most cross-dressers are simply heterosexual men where does GLAAD come in? I find it an interesting quandary.
I found the GLAAD page on "Transgender" and this is what I found:
Transgender - An umbrella term (adj.) for people whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. The term may include but is not limited to: transsexuals, cross-dressers and other gender-variant people. Transgender people may identify as female-to-male (FTM) or male-to-female (MTF). Use the descriptive term (transgender, transsexual, cross-dresser, FTM or MTF) preferred by the individual. Transgender people may or may not decide to alter their bodies hormonally and/or surgically.
Transsexual - (also Transexual) An older term which originated in the medical and psychological communities. While some transsexual people still prefer to use the term to describe themselves, many transgender people prefer the term transgender to transsexual. Unlike transgender, transsexual is not an umbrella term, as many transgender people do not identify as transsexual. It is best to ask which term an individual prefers.
It seems GLAAD find a transsexual a perfectly reasonable term although they conveniently leave out the description of what transsexual means. My guess is they are close to defining transsexual as derogatory as they have with transvestite. It is quite clear who is influencing GLAAD and it is not those of us born transsexual. It is quite simply people like Autumn Sandeen and her ilk that have openly campaigned for the classification of transsexual as a pejorative in many posts. I would like to understand why there is no description of transsexual on this page but I already know the answer. Simply put, they would have to state that it is a sex change.
The real irony is that just below this the following is stated.
Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) - Refers to surgical alteration, and is only one small part of transition (see Transition above). Preferred term to "sex change operation." Not all transgender people choose to or can afford to have SRS. Journalists should avoid overemphasizing the role of SRS in the transition process.
I am sure the transgender crowd will try and change that as quickly as possible to "Gender Affirmation Surgery" or whatever they are currently pushing. The real irony is GLAAD is correct in the usage of SRS because we change sex, not gender, because gender is not definable and completely malleable so how can one define what one changes to. That is a basic inconvenient truth the transgender like to avoid.
Near the top of this page GLAAD commits a sin against the gender crowd with the following.
Sex - The classification of people as male or female. At birth, infants are assigned a sex based on a combination of bodily characteristics including: chromosomes, hormones, internal reproductive organs, and genitals.
This flies in the face of how the gender crowd wants things defined. They along with assholes like John Money would prefer sex and gender be defined similarly and in fact many places it is incorrectly done that way. I believe there is a faction within GLAAD that would willingly listen to those of us born transsexual. The gender crowd has all the people in GLAAD pushing gender issues but there are obviously members of GLAAD not buying all their lies and bullshit or they would have succeeded in their quest to redefine transsexual as a pejorative.
I just cannot believe that any lesbian wants to let these gender pushers redefine what a female or a woman is. It has to be as offensive to them as it is to those of us who realized what a horrible mistake was made when we were born and fought to fix it at all cost. There are times I wish I could scream to to some lesbians I wanted and prayed for everything a girl gets a birth and that is the good with the bad. I wanted to menstruate and would willingly have managed the inconvenience of cramps. I wanted all the bad with the good because I was just a confused little girl who so desperately wanted to be a mother who entered a bad marriage to get the chance. I just had to be as complete as I could be.
Those of us that have managed to successfully survive this path are not the enemies of any women on this planet. I was a girl and then a woman and that was all I wanted. If you were to meet any of us that went through this young you would realize quickly we are just like every other little girl. We had the same wants and desires. Most of us were straight but some of us were always lesbian. It is a bond we have because we want nothing in return for the honor and privilege of being the female we should have been born.
I don't need any freaking laws protecting me because I am how I should have been and the rights of my fellow women are all I need. I am not foolish enough to believe putting on a dress made me female. It did not because I and every transsexual I have know understood we had a deformity that needed to be surgically repaired.
I cannot accept that a woman with a penis can be a lesbian or a female. If the sex characteristics do not match then you are what your sex characteristics define you as. Once I realized my sex characteristics did not match my soul there was nothing in this world going to stop me from fixing that inconvenience. I cannot accept that a man can get pregnant. Men do not get pregnant and women do not father children. This only happens in the gender world.
All of this said I certainly do not wish harm on anyone identified as transgender. What you do on your own time and at clubs that are accepting is fine by me. But for all of you it is about the clothes and please do not deny it because it is all any of you talk about. Being female and being a woman is not defined simply by gender roles and clothes. It is something you will just never ever understand and I am thankful of that.
My friends will be off to Myrtle Beach on Monday for more golf and my Editor friend intends to call her local GLAAD affiliate and ask why they were told they could not use transsexual. That should be an interesting conversation.