Trans Lunacy and Other Tidbits

The real problem with the trans activists is they are not supporting those that were born transsexual/transgender that want SRS.  They primarily support the cross-dressers that make up 97% of the people under the Transgender umbrella. In essence they support men-in-dresses with intact male genitalia in secure women's spaces. I do not and I was born transsexual.

I started the process when I was very young and it was a long time ago but all I wanted was to be the girl I should have been born. I did not want some special privileges as a "transwoman".  I considered myself cured after my SRS in early 1971 and never looked back.

I worked for 40+ years as a woman in a man's world and felt the sting of wage discrimination and I fought it when I could. I was asked multiple times, "why isn't a pretty girl like you home having children", and in so many ways I wish I could have born children but that was not to be. I fought my battles as a woman because nobody knew otherwise and to be honest that was all I ever wanted out of life.  I figured if I got that I could handle the rest of it. It is how we felt because being a girl was all it was ever about which was being who we really were. SRS was what was needed and we figured out a way to get it done and sometimes the methods were both morally and legally questionable but the end justified the means.

I was raped by a man when I was 14 so he could teach me what it meant to be a woman, like he had a freaking clue. These trans activists look at women from the outside looking in and are incapable of looking at life through the eyes of a woman because , quite bluntly, most of them want to retain their penis because it is their pleasure organ or to maintain their life style as it was before the transition. Changing from a men's business suit to a skirt does not make you either female or a woman unless you happen to be transgender.

They will tell us that a Colleen Francis in female spaces is not a threat because they look at it through male eyes, because they cannot do otherwise.  They cannot understand how frightened we can be with the thought of a functioning male in our midst because they do not see themselves as a threat, they are probably correct, but they are incapable of realizing it increases the chance that a predator can gain access by pretending to be a woman, as Colleen Francis did.  Francis was a functioning male and after he was caught he deleted Facebook accounts and other accounts where he expressed his desire to have sex with women using his current equipment while dressing as a woman.

They are offended when lesbians do not accept transwomen as fellow lesbians even thought they are functioning males with a working penis. That is transphobic. I am not a lesbian but I can imagine the shock and fear that would cause a lesbian who doesn't like the thought of a penis in the first place. You will notice you never read of them portraying men that cannot accept penis equipped transwomen as transphobic. Men have the right to reject that condition but women do not. Classic misogyny.

In so many ways the complaints and screams of outrage about depictions of "trans" people in the print media, on television, and in the movies is much ado about nothing. They work on the concept of trying to make something out of nothing in order to make society feel guilty as they try to make victims out of people that have in many cases victimized women by deceitfully marrying them and once they have them trapped in a marriage dropping the bombshell they are "trans" and expecting the wife to accept and support them. God help a wife, Christine Benvenuto, contradict her former husband's fantasy, Jay Ladin, because she will feel the wrath of the trans activist community. Soon the only villains allowed in television, movies, theater, or advertisement will be straight people.  How convenient.

American comedian and noted liberal Rosanne Barr was vilified and threatened when she said in a tweet that she supported those opposed to Colleen Francis having access to female spaces.  It was vicious  and threatening and personal.

They see themselves as martyrs fighting for "trans" rights when in truth they are men fighting to infringe on women's rights to safe and secure facilities. They love attaching "trans" to whatever they can. They want to be "special" and want to be identified as "transwoman" or "transman". They need "special" rights in addition to the rights of the gender they decide to be on a specific day. They have successfully blurred the concepts of sex and gender such that many do not realize they are distinctly different.

Their biggest ploy is the attempt to redefine what is male and female based on the concept that a female can have a  penis and a man can have a vagina and get pregnant as long as they claim said sex or gender. If they say it is so it is transphobic to deny it.

The one that really bugs me is the concept of cis gender privilege and the attempt to make genetic males and females feel guilty for being born that way based on a bizarre and long list of transgender problems primarily faced by those that have no intention of ever truly being male or female but are trying to redefine it so they fit. It goes hand in hand with the guilt those of us that were born transsexual and have managed to work hard to become complete women and men.  We are to feel guilty for passing because passing should not be promoted because some just cannot or never will pass.  I have sympathy for them if they want SRS but I have none for them if they do not because they are simply playing gender games and requiring us to go along with the fantasy.

These fools actually believe they can legislate acceptance by taking rights from women and giving them to men in dresses and any woman that objects is classified as transphobic.

The list of cis gender privileges found here is very interesting and very long. Some are the obstacles that anyone born transsexual must overcome to be free of transsexualism but those of us born that way and seeking our true life just dig in and plow through them.  We do not see them as female privilege but as our goals in life because we want to fit in and simply be women. The trans crowd does not want to fit in as female, they want it for free and nothing is free in life, unless of course you are trans and legislate it that way.

The other one that irritates me is feminism.  Just how the heck can a man in a dress, a Transwoman, be a feminist when they are violating the concept of what female is? To me they are misogynistic asshole men trying to force their fetish down the throats of women the same way they like to push something else down women's throats since they are almost all heterosexual males. When feminists said wait a freaking second here they invented the word "transfeminist" and of course this form of "feminism" fit their pathetic male world perfectly.  All of the things in life they felt made it difficult for them to play at being girls immediately made the list and of course, conveniently, the fact they were attempting to screw over women is ignored because after all they get to set the rules.

So in their myopic view of their "trans" world woman are privileged as are those of us that melted into society as woman after SRS and never let on about our past unless outed. What it means is simply being a girl/female/woman or a feminist is not "good" enough for the men in dresses, they need to be "transwomen" and "transfeminists"because they want the whole fucking world to know they were once "men". In the process it became important to usurp the transsexual experience by attempting to remove transsexual from use with the term transgender. The media is required to use transgender and even transsexual children are labeled transgender.

Now every transvestite on Transvestite-Central (T-Central) is transgendered and one can read about their lives as they destroy their families when their fetish becomes an obsession. Everything they know about being a woman is learned from reading about their fellow transvestites travails as they venture into the real world en femme. They are ecstatic when someone calls them she but fail to realize no person in their right mind would call a 6'-2" man in a dress much of anything unless they had more men backing them up but then if anything was said it would be "transphobic" because nobody has the right to simply say they look like Magilla Gorilla in a dress. The truth is we people that live in the world of the normal are too courteous or timid to say what should be said. I include myself in that category in public.

These idiots believe we, that live in the world of the normal, need teaching moments so we can learn these fetishistic men are just as much women as any woman living in the world of the normal. Just a little clue, we know who you are. We know you are a man in a dress. It is hard to miss the meaty hands, the size 14 hooves, the prevalent Adams Apple, or the male body plus they always have huge boobs because that is the ultimate male fantasy in the woman of their desire and that includes themselves.  I could go into how they dress but that is a post of its own.

Do any of us wish them any real harm? Not really. I often think forcing them to use the male facilities with their fellow men would be laughable but one would not want these poor little 6'-2" 225 pound delicate flowers put in danger, but then again they do not care if they pass legislation that puts us in potentially more danger.

That is the interesting question isn't it? Why is all the "trans" legislation for protection of male-bodied men in dresses. The reason is simple.  They will always be "trans" so they feel they need protection from us vile and predatory women that threaten them every day of their lives with rape, spousal abuse, murder, sexual harassment, and all the other mean things we do such as telling them they are men. Plus they are worried their male buddies might reject them as "gay" while they at the same time think they are somehow "lesbians".  I think that by itself shows you how screwed up they really are.

These same fools have perpetrated the "forced sterilization" hoax on the politically correct morons that are and always will be the Swedish. In their world forced sterilization is requiring someone to have a sex change in order to change documents. So in order for transvestites and others of their ilk to gain the right to claim they are either male or female, when they are no,t they categorized SRS as forced sterilization without regard to the harm it does to those truly born transsexual. In essence they were claiming that government funded SRS was forced sterilization and equating it to the eugenics programs of the Nazi's and their own Nazi leaning government of WWII plus the eugenics that was in effect into the 1970's.

More later.....

"Lost Girl" Kerfuffle was "Much Ado About Nothing"

I felt it necessary to update the "Lost Girl" scandal that the Transgender Mafia created and believe me they created a scandal out of nothing. Lost Girl is a SyFy show about supernatural creatures that live amongst us such as The Fae, the Succubus, Wolf Shifters and other non-human beings living together with humans. The main character Bo is a succubus who can literally suck the life force out of another being whether human or non-human.  Bo is depicted as a rather active bisexual creature with lesbian and male lovers.

The following are some of the complaints or accusations made against the Season Three premiere.


First article complaining with Goggle.

At the end of the episode, Bo kissed the prison's warden, who appears to be female -- and then announced that she had beard stubble, and was biologically male. The Amazon guards descended on the warden, grabbing her crotch and violently dragging her away. The warden survives the assault. She is referred to using male pronouns for the duration of the episode. 

Bo actually said "I knew that was a lot of stubble even for an amazon. (pause) Your leader (warden) is a man. She is a Liderc" The warden was impregnating girls in a scheme to sell the babies on the black market. The Warden was a mythical shape shifter called a Liderc. It was not discovered until the very end what was happening since the initial premise was the disappearance and then death of previous Doctor and Bo and Zoie Palmer the lesbian Doctor go undercover to find the truth. The woman second from the right is the Amazon Warden who is the Liderc.

There is not a single negative connotation towards the transgendered, the transsexual, or the gender diverse in the entire show. I guess the penis packing men in dresses might be upset because another Amazon walked up and did a crotch inspection with a grab and the last we see of our Liderc Warden and great offense to the Transgender world she is led away by the mob of pissed off women she has dehumanized in prison.

Some of these dipshits were even upset because the part was played by a female actress which presumably might have made the resulting exposure more palatable, possibly. I watched the show on Demand and re-ran the exposure moment and it is neither derogatory nor offensive to anyone and is correctly gendered throughout the show even at the end.

This was a classic GLAAD grab for attention and your typical Transgender attempt to gain publicity over nothing. Anyone offended by that episode is seriously deluded and grasping at straws that do not exist, yet, in this world of political correctness they managed to get a sortof apology from the show.

Isn't it humorous they find that offensive yet these same people feel Colleen Francis has the right to expose his male genitals to women just because he claims he is transgendered.  Did anyone read anywhere where GLAAD took a position on that asshole? Not that I know of.

This entire kerfuffle was manufactured and one has to ask the question why? At one time I was a fan of the SciFi channel but the SyFy channel has few good shows and I don't watch any of them. I did watch this show when it first came on but its characters were boring and the issues were repetitive and the characters so limited it seemed to me the only way they could get viewer interest is with the bisexual lead characters sex life which is seemingly a major part of every script. They get the lesbians with the lesbian kisses and they get the men that just love the thought of girl-on-girl action. 

I wonder if flagging ratings was a part of this manufactured stupidity.  It would not be the first time and I do believe the SyFy channel needs all the ratings help it can get.  We all know how blindly these buffoons in the Transgender Mafia will lock onto any perceived slight. Well it worked, I guess, because it got me to watch that episode but it was a one timer for me.

I am willing to wager that most of the nimrod transgender activists complaining have not seen the show and believe me if you were not listening closely it was very difficult to even here the supposed transgender slight. Just another classic example of the saying, "Stupid is what stupid does".

Threats of Censorship

Censorship is afoot in the blog world when it comes to any comments in reference to the transgendered.  You either agree with the transgender paradigm or you must be silenced. They even consider some comments about women and transsexuals as an affront yet in most cases they want the term transsexual erased. One must never let anyone say anything that contradicts the message they are trying to push onto the world.

Now I am certainly not a friend of the Radfems that think my life is a lie and that I am not a woman even though they wouldn't know I was born a boy unless I told them.  Most if these radical feminists are lesbians that are truly afraid of the male-bodied transgenders passing themselves off as women while maintaining a functional penis. In my opinion these radical feminists are missing the simple fact that most people truly born transsexual that have cured themselves or are on the way to curing themselves are likely to agree with them on the lesbians with penis' argument but like most fringe groups they are a little too myopic.

The blog called Gender Trender has been censored after a concerted effort by the trans activist twittersphere     for some reasons that escape me based on what I have read. Access to the blog has been denied to the owner at least temporarily. I am not a fan of censorship although I have resorted to banning one individual from commenting on my blog mainly because her comments are not about the post but an attack on me so I guess I do censor her but I do let them through if she is not her normal offensive self. There is another one I should ban but she still has a little more rope.

In a comment on my previous post a commenter, Black Swan, has made an attempt to threaten me with certain types of harassment in an attempt to censor what I write here which is just the opinion of someone that has lived too much and seen these same idiots in other forms and likes to rattle their collective cages a little. Black Swan is a third rate paralegal and mentioned harassing me with a law 47 USCS 230 which does not apply and with a SLAPP legal action which I explained in a comment on the previous post which is strictly a harassment technique which is done by state and must be filed in the resident state of the defendant's legal residence.

You realize you must be hitting a nerve when the transgender mafia has one of their followers and practitioners threaten you thusly. She even brought out the racist card which is beyond hilarious based on my history and life but then again they throw racist, nazi, transphobic, etc. against anyone that stands up to them. They believe any attempt to censor Christine Benvenuto is legitimate and the taking down of literature or arguments that contradict their beliefs in any way is a "right" and in essence support burning books and denying access to contrarian views because they consider said views anti trans. They can stand heel to heel with the right wing nuts that want to censor or deny access to books like "Catcher in the Rye" and even "The Origin of The Species" by Darwin because in their myopic world they see anyone speaking contrary to their stated beliefs is a heretic. They act more like the Catholic Church than the Catholic Church and more like the Right Wing nuts than the Right Wing Nuts. That is not good company..

The transgender mafia is getting more bold and more arrogant as they have succeeded in there censorship attempts in several instances and I know of several blogs that were closed down because they were threatened with being outed. Black Swan threatened to out me in her comment on the previous post. Anything to silence the critics.

Just another example of men being men!!!!

The TG Political Correctness Stupidity

In the minds of the TG activists no television show, radio program or paper has the right to print or discuss or show anything that promotes a negative stereotype of the transgendered. In their world Michelle Kosilek the wife murderer is a martyr and deserves to have her sex change at the taxpayers expense after "he" suddenly decided in jail he was a she. Before jail he was your average transvestite murderer but that is not allowed.

A show on the SyFy channel called "Lost Girl" had as its opening show for this season a transgender character that was pretending to be a female guard in a prison in order to impregnate women. Now this show in my humble opinion went downhill and has gone downhill since the first season yet the transgender advocates are up in arms over it calling it transphobic. I gather one cannot have a single negative impression about the transgendered. By these standards Michael Caine's critically acclaimed movie "Dressed to Kill" could not be made nor could Jodie Foster's "Silence of the Lambs".

I guess only heterosexual characters can be evil and twisted. If a book is authored that contradicts the fantasy of a self aggrandizing late transitioner it should be censored and shouted down at any public reading. If some dipshit makes a comment implying transsexuals should stop trying to look like Brazilian Transsexuals it is a sacrilege. Rather than simply laughing it off as a stupid comment made by someone that might possibly be clueless they engage in a verbal confrontation and eventually get the article censored.  To the TG advocates it is their way or the censorship highway.

Look what happened to Rosanne Barr, a major left wing icon, when she sided with those of us that thought male bodied individuals should stay out of women's changing areas, lockers etc.. She was savaged by the political correctness police of the transgender mafia. It was downright vicious.

Any article in any paper or on any blog that contradicts their myopic view of the world is to be censored, shut down and vilified. They ignore the facts in cases and promote the bullshit and the propaganda. In most cases they are simply too stupid to even research the facts because after all they already know everything even if they have not read the facts. The current situation in Sweden is a rather sinister example of this.  Headlines scream that Sweden has been sterilizing the transgendered for years.  What they conveniently leave out is the sterilization is the Sex Reassignment Surgery that was required in order to get documentation papers changed from male to female and since the state paid for it, those were the rules. Sweden never forcibly sterilized anyone for being transsexual or transgendered but that would not rally the troops. They even tried linking it to eugenics which were actually used by Sweden on some people similar to what the German's did in WWII.

All this goes with the never let the facts influence the story when it might benefit men in retaining their dicks. We have these loons demanding that male bodied individuals in female attire be legally allowed into restricted use facilities for women. They claim they are no threat and affirm Colleen Francis' right to expose herself in a women's sauna. They are very willing to trample on a women's right to privacy and our security when in compromising positions. They claim it is transphobic to deny these male bodied men anything their little male hearts desire while wearing the little wife's dress.

This is not an issue for those of us born transsexual who have undergone SRS to correct mother nature's mistake or for those born transsexual working toward SRS.  Not one of us would ever consider entering a woman's dressing area before SRS unless the circumstances were unavoidable and we would certainly not expose ourselves because quite simply few of us were or are in love with what we were born with.

Their big claim is that the transgendered are not a threat to women but this is just not true if they are male bodied. Michelle Kosilek murdered his wife in cold blood and stuffed her in the trunk of her car and it was because he was a transvestite and the wife got in his way.  The first thing he did was go on a clothes buying spree once she was out of the way. I could be wrong but he might actually have been arrested buying female clothes or exiting a store with female attire.  Is that dangerous enough for you?

We now have another possible case of a transgender individual murdering a woman. Here is the link in the
Torrance Daily Breeze. Now I believe the political correctness police of the TG mafia have missed something.  They reference "her" as a "transgender man" and that should be "transgender woman" and isn't it politically incorrect to mention this until this scumbag is convicted and sent to prison for life. Heck they can then demand"she" be given a free sex change by the State of California.

Now in the United States one is innocent until proven guilty so I'll try and keep an eye on this story. Angel Guevara Bello is the suspect but the TG police are missing a chance to correct a newspaper. Bello asked to be referred to as a female yet the newspaper consistently used male pronouns despite the obvious breasts the accused had. Ms. Bello is a she-male prostitute so the male package was working because that is a requirement and the victim was found under a bush and may have been sexually assaulted. The police seem to have significant evidence but then one is innocent until proven guilty unless one is transgender and then of course they are always innocent.

I am waiting for the transgender mafia and the political correctness police to demand that male bodied transgenders be allowed to compete in the Miss America pageant because after all SRS is forced sterilization  and any requirement of SRS is thus some form of transphobia. The stupid thing is they literally do have the balls to demand this and probably will.  After all if the birth certificate says female then cock and balls or not you are female in their world.

Welcome to the new world order but a barf bag might be required.

Christine Benvenuto vs Joy (Jay) Ladin

A funny thing happened when Jay Ladin decided to become Joy Ladin in the middle of his very dominant male life as the husband in an Orthodox Jewish Marriage, his wife woke up. I am sure Mr. Ladin never thought that would happen because he knew his wife, as a timid and supportive woman that single handed was raising their three children while substitute teaching in their locale of South Hadley Massachusetts, plus doing part time editing work for publishers. This enclave just off I-91 is a bastion of Liberalism in the midst of a group of elite small colleges and the University of Massachusetts. It is a beautiful place to live and raise a family but god help you if you stray from the politically correctness of the left.

If you have read any of Joy Ladin's self aggrandizing articles and her memoir it becomes quite apparent she is obsessed with describing herself as brave, courageous, steadfast, heroic, strong, and conveniently a transsexual when use of the word carries importance. Joy Ladin described Christine as a stay at home wife who did not work which is the first of his many lies.  There is no question he was the primary bread winner but substitute teaching in 3 local school systems, editing manuscripts for publishers while raising 3 children while hubby was teaching at Yeshiva in New York City, is far from not working. Only a man would assume that Christine  Benvenuto was not working twice as hard as any man but then mothers never are appreciated by certain men.

In this article in the Mail Online Joy Ladin brings forth the ultimate nightmarish image for any Jew when she claims she lived in "her own concentration camp" and somehow escaped and became a "heroine of the transgender community". This article was okay even though they used the he word for pre Joy. Typical of all of his comments, articles and his memoir he took nasty shots at his ex-wife. Notice the political correctness when saying "her wife" yet a slip-up using he later but alas this was a positive review and was soothing to his male ego. Don't you think "her wife" is kind of insulting to Christine? After all she is a heterosexual woman and is not nor has she ever been lesbian but then non trans people have no rights any longer when dealing with the transgendered.

During arguments with her wife, she recalls wanting to explain: 'This isn’t a typical male midlife crisis - it’s a typical transsexual midlife crisis.'

As a man, Jay Ladin always knew he liked to dress in women's clothing and was honest about his tendencies with his then girlfriend in college. 

Joy has come up with a new and better narrative by now.  It was not his fault because he told the girlfriend he was transsexual and a cross-dresser before they were married. The simple truth is based on what happened that is a complete lie. No woman would accept a man under those conditions and then dump him and be as angry as she was when it happened.  Someone is lying here and even in this he said-she said I believe Christine Benvenuto.  Why would a catholic girl convert to Judaism under those circumstances? They would not.

The following excerpt from this interview says it all.

When the walls of her 'private concentration camp finally collapsed' in 2005, Ms Ladin's wife refused to approve of what she saw as the destruction and erasure of their lives together. 

'Most literature on transsexuality implies that there is a moral obligation for others to recognize the supremacy of the transsexual’s needs,' writes the professor. 

But her wife was not like everyone else. Her 'courage' as a young adult to resist the moral decree that a woman should always put others' needs before her own - that had once been the object of her husband's admiration - now stood in the way of her acceptance of his true identity. 

'Rather than swallowing her pain and focusing on my mine, she decided to fight for her life,' Ms Ladin explains in the book. 'If I had been faithless, she would be faithful.
'If I denied the reality of the man she loved, she would mourn and defend him.'

There is a moral obligation for others to recognize the supremacy of the transsexual's needs? Actually he means it was his Jewish Wife's moral obligation to support her "trans" husband! Where the heck did that drivel come from? First rule of men in a dress is their needs are supreme over every one else's needs and there is nothing like an arrogant late transitioner that has had time to line up his narrative and learn it well and his wife be damned if she decides to burst his bubble and tell the truth. These words are from Christine's ex-husband and they condemn him for what he is and it is not transsexual.

The real problem is Christine Benvenuto is contradicting her ex-husbands grandiose opinion of himself and is calling into open question the veracity of his claims and then this self-described intellectual opens his mouth and proceeds to prove to anyone truly born transsexual, early or late transition, that he is so full of shit he should provide hip-boots to wade through his crap.

Jay Ladin's arrogance knows no bounds and he is a good writer with an abounding ability to emphasize his bravery and his wife's cowardice for not accepting him and fearing for the worst. After all a wife in a good Jewish marriage supports her husband at all costs.

In this New Haven News essay Joy Ladin discusses going through adolescence in mid-life and of course his bravery and courage are at the forefront and he often comments how he proves his wife "wrong" when he walks down streets in a dress and high heels with his new friend Nancy, she helps dress him and encourages him, as he struts his stuff as a woman. It reads like something written by the transvestites on T-Central except it is well written with his grandiose style.  You have to realize that he was a literary nobody before he became  the celebrity transgender heroine of his dreams.  Now he is praised by former Pulitzer prize winners because he is the current flavor of the month.

This is the same man that tried to gain custody of his middle daughter because his wife was not teaching her to be feminine enough. This is the man that admitted he had dressup dates with this same daughter where he asked his then 7-8 year old daughter how she thought he would look in certain outfits. This is verified by the son who is the oldest. This is a man that cross-dressed in front of his 2 year old when still living with the wife for the two years after his announcement. She was kinder than I would have been and was. I would have thrown his worthless ass out then and there but she actually did try and be a good wife or spouse.

Christine's memoir of what happened is how she viewed it and is told from the viewpoint of a woman conflicted by her love for this man who has suddenly decided to be a woman and the need to keep her family together and to protect her children. Joy Lain wrote a memoir with his view of the events but his wife is not allowed such a privilege even though she is a better writer than this self-absorbed man in a dress which he technically still is.

I wonder how they would feel at Yeshiva University if he decided to shower and get naked with the coeds?

There was nothing intolerant about the the article Christine Benvenuto wrote.  The Gazette commissioned it and approved it and PAID for it and it was at their suggestion she write the article. They were bullied into pulling it based on the claims of some that it was transphobic. Please point out the transphobic part of the article. Margaret Cerullo led a protest when Ms Benvenuto had a book reading at Amherst Books. They were loud and extremely vulgar despite the fact young children where in the store and the protest was violent enough for the Police Department to be called. Like a bunch of angry men they screamed and yelled in protest of a book not one single member of the protest group has admitted to reading. Excerpts were enough to censor a book and I am sure they would have held a book burning if given the chance.

Cerullo is a Sociology Professor at Hampshire College and teaches "Queer Studies" which is odd because being trans has nothing to do with "Queer Studies" but then Joy Ladin teaches English in the Women's college at Yeshiva and he has not one thing in common with women including packing and keeping his penis. If you read his musings you will find little to no reference to undergoing a "sex change" because after all it is not necessary for a man in touch with his frilly dress and heels side. Isn't it ironic that so-called feminists jump to the side of man who claims to be a woman yet requires his penis to function. They must have a new breed of feminists at Hampshire College.

I would recommend certain commenters actually read a lot of what Joy Ladin has written but then most make up their opinion based on their stance on the TG mafia which has certainly reared its ugly head in the Christine Benvenuto assault. Read his claims that he was in his own "private" concentration camp because he was "trans".  Funny thing is those interned in concentration camps had no chance to "escape", they only had to die.  Joy Ladin could escape her "self-described" private concentration camp at any time by simply doing what was necessary but unlike her self belief she is a heroine she is actually a callous coward that destroyed a family and then pretended it was the wife's fault.  How so very manly of Joy Ladin.

Joy Ladin is a typical delusional transgender nitwit that grasped onto the term "transsexual" because he felt it would get him sympathy. He has changed his narrative more times than one can count and he becomes brave and more heroic with every nuance he adds yet it reads like the narrative of a child transsexual just trying to survive her living nightmare but brave Jay managed to hold out tell he was in his mid forties. Has anyone ever read where a transsexual has said they would "die" if they could not wear a dress? We might die but it will be because we cannot somehow obtain SRS which Joy Ladin seems not to need.

As a woman that went through something similar it shook me to the core because I was deeply hurt also but not as deeply as Christine.  I was independent enough to tell mine to move out right now but he was like a bad cold because I could not get rid of him.  Christine does not speak with her ex and I wish I was in that position but I am not.

As a woman I side with Christine because what she has written is from the heart and as accurate as one can make it when a family is torn apart. The only ones that treat the wife like Jay Ladin are his fellow transvestites. Every late transitioner I know or have read about that was transsexual had a lot of guilt over what happened to their wife.  Some wives seem to be strong enough to stay with the new spouse but the spouse has the right to be upset and angry of this type of betrayal and only those with no experience in life as a woman and a mother could possibly side with Joy Ladin but then some support the Transgender regardless of what they do.

It really does make you wonder what kind of a woman does that. Jay Ladin is now a heroic spokesperson for the Transgender Mafia and like all good male thugs he expects no objections and that includes from his wife. After all women should be seen and not heard and this is a classic example.

I would tell you to go frak yourself but the only place your dilator will find a home is up your ass and that is kind of fitting.

Transgender Censorship At Work

The article below was brought to my attention by a reader and was copied from Gender Trender so it can be read here.  The above link is to an excellent article describing the censorship imposed or coerced by trans activists on the Kveller website trying to explain why it was removed.

Following the article is the rationale by Kveller which in reality is based on specious comments and a vicious attack on the former wife of Joy Ladin who is a Professor at Yeshiva University who so conveniently waited until he was tenured before changing genders which led to divorce.

Ms Benvenuto is far kinder than I would be to this piece of shit who feels he can write about his wife and family in his autobiography but his wife cannot write about some of the issues she faces on a daily basis. Christine Benevenuto is a published author of note and is well respected yet her words were censored and she was actually attacked verbally in NYC at a book reading by the transgender mafia that required police intervention and this is the real reason for her ex's anger.

Christine Benvenuto has written a book titled:

Sex Changes: A Memoir of Marriage, Gender, and Moving On

Amazon Link

This is the reason for the censorship and the further attempted censorship of her book by the transgender mafia. How dare anyone write a book that describes what the wife goes through when a husband that has never cross-dressed suddenly decides to change genders and in her case becomes hostile to her in subtle ways that nearly broke this shy Jewish woman. There are some indications he had father issues and said occassionally he wished he was a girl when they first met but it ended there. The book should give unsight into this.

How dare she write about her feelings and what this did to her.  I have purchased the Kindle version of her book and am reading it and will publish a review.

Read this and tell me why you would censor this article. Now you know why.  Now even Gender Trender knows the rationale behind the attacks on Christine Benevenuto. So now you know the rest of the story behind this attempt at censorship.


Reprinted unedited under Fair Use.


Dec 3 2012

Staying in the Same Town as My Ex

By Christine Benvenuto at 9:54 am

Recently, one of my children was referred to a new doctor. Somewhat unusually, my ex came along to the appointment.

The doctor entered the room where we sat waiting, introduced herself, and greeted my child. I introduced myself as my child’s mother. “And who are you?” the doctor asked my ex. “I’m the other parent,” my ex replied stiffly. “The other parent,” the doctor echoed, laughing and nodding. I could see her assessing the situation, making the obvious assumption about our family composition: I had given birth to my child. Her “other parent” was my former lesbian partner. Half right. Sketching in our child’s medical profile the doctor asked some questions about her brother and sister, and we provided the necessary information.

“But do they have the same father?” the doctor inquired. What she meant but didn’t say was, “Do they have the same sperm donor?”

“Yes,” we said in unison. What we meant but didn’t say was, “Yes, and you are looking at him.”

A funny thing happened on the way to my becoming a single mom.

My husband and I got together in our teens. More than 20 years and three children later, he decided to live the rest of his life as a woman. Our marriage melted along with his masculinity. I went through the anguish any woman might over the unexpected demise of a long and happy marriage. I faced the usual potpourri of dread–of penury, isolation–when I contemplated raising three children alone, the youngest still in diapers. Worse, I felt crushed by a sense that the reason for my marriage’s demise said something so terrible about me it would be intolerable to remain in a place in which it was public knowledge. Exactly what it said, I wasn’t sure. Maybe that was part of what made it so awful.

Everything was changing. I thought that where my children and I lived would have to change right along with it. But I love where I live. More importantly, my children are fiercely attached to it. They like that when my friends spot them in town without me, they want to know who they are with and what they are up to. They like knowing the trees that are tapped for our syrup and the chickens providing our eggs. They like noticing the way the flocks of turkeys who usually tie up traffic on our roads seem to go into hiding just before Thanksgiving each year only to reappear when it’s safely over.

Still. Weren’t we fighting a losing battle, hanging onto a place just because it was where we had once been happy? I couldn’t go, but how could I stay?

Finally someone offered the most profound insight into my situation I have heard to date, uttering the words that set me free from this stalemate: “You aren’t the first woman to marry a jerk, and you won’t be the last.”

Ah!

She was saying I had nothing to be ashamed of. My ex’s choices didn’t reflect badly on me. When a guy dumps a wife and young children for another woman, people–the wife in question, certainly–are more likely to think, “What a jerk!” than, “What a hero!” Why should it be any different just because the other woman is the guy?

I’ve stayed–so far. As long I remain I can’t ever get entirely away from my past, but then maybe I don’t want to. It’s mine, after all. Everything my eyes rest on, every Fall Foliage banner, every coffee shop and playground, recalls some moment of my children’s lives, some treasure I never want to lose. I was happy before. I’m happy now. I’ve made a new life without leaving. Astoundingly, I’ve moved on without leaving home.

On the other hand, I also can’t get entirely away from my ex’s presence. There’s no upside to that one. I can’t know when, not if but when, my ex will pop up somewhere or sometime I least expect him.

Last December I was behind the wheel of a pickup truck, a little before 9 in the morning, after delivering my children to their schools. I was headed downhill on a narrow winding road, a horse pasture on the other side of the fence on my left. There is an entrance to the pasture at the bottom of the hill but few vehicles stop there. I was expecting a 40 mile an hour shot down the hill, through the tiny town center and up another hill to where I live, what National Public Radio calls my local member station muttering sedately at the outskirts of my attention all the while. Then two things happened.

My former husband was in the truck. That is, his voice was in the truck. His odd, grown-male-straining-for-the-uppermost-register-of-his-voice voice. Saying his name. Saying, “What the holidays mean to me is–.”

I reached the knob in time to spare myself anything further. I didn’t learn what the holidays mean to my ex. Presumably not celebrating with his family. Not the intention, unfulfilled yearly, to make it to the lighting of the town menorah. Not the intention, always fulfilled, to light every menorah we own at least one night of Hanukkah. Not the turns around a frozen pond in skates bought long ago for other feet. Not New Year’s Eve in front of the fire, at least one child struggling to remain head up and eyes open. Not these things he isn’t around for.

The radio station was engaged in a December campaign, trite but previously benign, of playing the voices of area residents saying Feliz Navidad or Happy Solstice. I was engaged in a December campaign of tuning them out. Why my former husband? How did they choose him? In their efforts to be inclusive did they feel that merely by airing his voice, regardless of what he said, they could have a demographic covered? I couldn’t think about it right then. I was too busy stomping on the brake, trying not to rear-end the truck in front of me that had, in the split second I was devoting to my radio knob, stopped at the pasture gate. I just made it.

Usually the omnipresence of Bing Crosby and the Chipmunks is enough reason to avoid the radio this time of year. Now I had another. In subsequent days I had several opportunities to lunge for the dial. Friends caught the spot and shared their unique takes on it. “My husband said he heard your ex on the radio advertising himself,” one reported. “Why would he be advertising himself?” she wondered. “My husband said whatever the reason was, if he gets any money out of it he hopes he will give some of it to his family.”

So yes, my ex recurs like Christmas carols. But I don’t have to let him drown out the rest of my life. I knew the holidays would soon be over, and the echoes of his voice along with them.



The following is the notice of censorship published by the Kveller website:

Dec 5 2012

A Note to Our Readers

By Kveller at 12:07 pm

Kveller has always prided itself on being a place where people can discuss the most challenging parts of life and parenting—infertility, death, and yes, divorce.

We have seen how much support, encouragement, and affirmation people feel when their voices are heard and their deepest disappointments and difficulties are shared and discussed.

The honesty and courage of our writers are what have made Kveller such a compelling and valuable website.

At the same time, the social utility of our articles is something we take seriously. We want Kveller to help people feel more confident, more secure, more understood. Unfortunately, our decision to publish “Staying in the Same Town as My Ex” in the form that it was in has undermined that effort, and thus we have decided to remove it from the website.

When it comes to issues that impact a historically (and currently) persecuted community it is our responsibility as editors to be extra sensitive to the exact language being used. Kveller and its parent organization MyJewishLearning are committed to honoring the identities and life experience of all people, including transgender people. We do not believe that this article was meant to be transphobic, but we do believe that our failures in the editing process created an article that could be read that way, which is not good for the writer, Kveller, and most importantly, the LGBT community, which Kveller and MyJewishLearning are dedicated to supporting and working with to create a more inclusive Jewish community.

So, Why Am I Supposed to Feel Guilty?

It seems that I should feel guilty because I somehow got to live my life as a girl and a woman. Somehow, I did something wrong by not being "out" and "proud" to be "trans".  Some of the many loons that promote this theme, Stephanie for one, have been losers their entire lives. Rather than living life they delved into drugs and booze and unlike those courageous enough to defeat those demons they prefer to blame people like me for living a quiet and successful life.

We all face those demons when we are born transsexual. There is a lot of negativity surrounding us and in my era that negativity was compounded by lack of knowledge about transsexualism and in my case complete lack of realization that it existed. One does not choose transsexualism, it chooses you, despite what some would like you to believe. Anyone that would "claim" they choose transsexualism is insane. It is that simple but then some people will latch onto anything if it gives their pathetic lives meaning.

Whether you are 13, 25, 35, or 45 dealing with transsexualism is not a walk in the park, it is a lot of hard work and unfortunately sometimes luck is involved. I certainly did not have the roof of my garage lift off and reveal to me that I was "transsexual" late in life as one particular loon describes her awakening which was of course later altered to present  better picture. I and most like me lived this nightmare every single day and believe me the movie "Groundhog Day" is what we lived every single day except ours was a nightmare not somewhere where we get to enlighten ourselves.

Our enlightenment is the salvation of SRS and the potential new life it can lead to and that is a key point. We have the potential to have the life we want and have prayed for but it takes a lot of courage to  work for that life. Initially I tried to bow out of life because I felt helpless and that is a problem for many children and young adults.

I have had multiple people tell me if I had been more open about my life it would have helped them back in the day. Well, I actually was kind of open about this for a short while after SRS on radio in NYC and several Television shows out of the city but it was not the life i wanted. I did not fight my way through this crap to play activist. I fought my way through this crap to live and by live I mean live as just an ordinary woman in everyday American life. I believe I succeeded at that.

Somehow I am not supposed to be proud that I actually set precedents for women in multiple areas of Business and Engineering. No, I am not going to tell you what but those that know me as close friends understand the circumstances. I and many like me have done similar things over the years not because we were somehow still "tarns", we thankfully leave that behind us, but because we are women and circumstances gave us a chance to succeed and we did.

Now, the simple concept of staying "trans" is where we differ. I was not "crossing" or "changing" or "playing" or "femulating" after SRS, I was just living as me and no longer "trans" because SRS ended that.

When I woke up completely after making it back to my room in the late afternoon there was a friendly hand holding my hand. It was Dr. Benjamin and he asked me "how do you feel", which I am sure was about the pain but my comment started with, "I feel complete", and we ended up in  a hazy conversation about why it was finally over but the key was what Harry said before he left.  He said, "It will only be over if you let it be over", and it took a while for that to sink into my thick Welsh gray matter but eventually it did.

In order to live you have to let go of the past.  It does not mean you forget about  what you went through and all the pain and anguish.  It means you have to finally accept the fact you are a girl, a woman, a female, and a complete person. You are no longer transsexual, transgender, or trans because that is just a crutch many find convenient to lean on. One does not have to work so hard at living if one has a crutch.

The thing I found amazing was I actually never thought about being born male after SRS.  Do not get me wrong, I remembered, because I had some seriously ugly shit done to me but I won and they lost because I survived and made it.

Yes, I won the genetic lottery at birth because I was feminine but as a child it was genetic hell in so many ways. Believe me, I am not sorry about that, I was lucky and for that I am thankful. I am in awe of those born transsexual that lost the genetic lottery yet still worked their ass off to succeed and make themselves presentable as women, because they earned it and they will cherish it. I am appalled when so-called activists say negative things about what they have done to make it. It is actually jealousy because when you are a complete loser in life then it makes your life more livable to believe someone else got all the breaks, when in fact, like all of us, they worked their ass off to get there.

These so-called activists that claim that unless you are "out" and "proud" your life has no meaning are the real losers in life.  Many of these activists are still packing a penis and are deluding themselves into believing they are actually female and a woman. They support crazies like Colleen Francis because it benefits their delusional world view and are incapable of realizing it actually harms women because they understand they are not women so like all "men" they want to change the world definition of "female" to fit them and their penis. They even like to claim, if they like men, that the men that like them are straight.  I actually watched a video where one said "her" straight boyfriends liked to suck her penis.  Sorry pal but any man that sucks a dick is gay or bisexual and most certainly not straight, but then they do live in a delusional world. Also, if you want your "dick" sucked you are not a woman so get over it. By the way I have no issue if this is what they enjoy but please do not tell me I have to believe your delusion!

I have a friend in England that I am in awe of in so many ways.  She is an activist but the quiet type who still lives a rather mundane to normal life but fights for kids. She has helped kids I would have run from because we have set requirements including parental support.  In so many ways we are cowards compared to her. She takes on cases and causes that would cause me to shudder. Another mutual friend of ours does the same thing in the Philadelphia area of the United States.  She is a Saint because she not only helps them, she rescues them and moves them into her home for safety as has my friend in England. They are both quiet about their lives yet they  give back in ways none of these new activists ever could.

There are some activists I disagree with vehemently about many issues but they do things I am in awe of. Dysonnance runs a shelter in Arizona and deserves to be commended for that. Black Swan has helped many with legal briefs relating to insurance and other issues in Los Angeles including those children at Children's Hospital of LA. We agree to disagree, she hates me, but she gets kudos for trying to help.

There are many others that have done similar good deeds.  The problem is that all too many are activists for their own needs and do not give a damn about anyone but themselves. The list is too long and it would be a disservice to even mention one name.

Many of these fools are simply transvestites looking to legitimize their existence by claiming they are no longer "crossdressers" but are transgendered. It is part of the delusional world they live in where they are obsessed with "womenless" pageants and sundry other issues where boys are pretending to be girls which is what they do in their daily lives.

The funny thing about activists is there are two types. Those that chose to be activists and those that were outed and had it chosen for them. I really have little issue with those that had it chosen for them like Lynn Conway because we might disagree but she lived life as a woman and has a clue unlike some that have played at it and think they are owed something because they are permanently "trans".

So to put it bluntly I am not sorry for living my life as just an ordinary woman. If that is not what you wanted then you were not born transsexual. Sometimes circumstances intervene but I have never met anyone born transsexual that wanted anything other than normalcy in their life. All the rest of you are just plain frauds and should change you mantra from "trans woman" to "fraudulent woman" because it fits better. Until you have lived as a woman with your past unknown you cannot truly understand what it means to be a woman. It is why there are feminists and sadly you frauds will never understand that.

You will never have a fellow Engineer ask; "why is a pretty girl like you not home having babies?"; you will never be told you get less pay because men need to support their wife and children; you will never be denied promotions because you might get pregnant; you will never be told you are a girl so emotionally you cannot possibly handle the position; and you will never be told you fucked your way to the top if you actually do move up the Corporate ladder.

You assholes will have your "trans" protections that women do not have but you will also claim the same rights as women that many of us have fought for and earned over the years. You keep your male privilege gained on the job as a man with your "trans rights" and still demand to be accepted as a woman.  You are so clueless you cannot see how badly that galls most women in the workforce but then you are a special kind of woman aren't you?  You are a "trans woman" and are so naive you cannot realize how silly that sounds but then men just do not get it.

On the other hand you will never know what the joys of being a woman are. That first kiss from a boy that literally blows you mind because it is everything you dreamed of. That first date with a boy when he holds your hand and you feel protected.  That first true relationship with a guy that changes your life forever. The first time you have sex when you are actually nervous and scared at the same time yet the man that is making love to you leads you gently through your first experience. The incredible sensual joy of your first female orgasm during sex, it is mind altering. They joy of possibly getting the chance of being a stepmother and learning that maternal instincts are within you along with some help from mom. Finally meeting your soul mate and the wedding you dreamed of and the realization that the man waiting for you with the Minister is someone you want to spend your life with, who loves you and will protect you which is a base instinct for all women.

There are so many more and all of them are apropos of any lesbian relationship.  So all of you "fraudulent women" out there just remember you will always be what you were before you decided to be trans and we will always be what we should have been and regardless of what you say your penis defines you and in some cases your words define you as mine do me.  I am comfortable with who I am and my life while you are a misfit and always will be because you will always be "trans" in your own mind.

Sadly you are what you were born and no legislation and no amount of pandering will ever change the simple fact we won and you lost and in so many ways it is sad how lost you really are. You can learn the story but when you deny the life the story demands then you lose.