Cristan Williams also had a post about stealth and it can be read here.
They make the assumption that those who have been born transsexual and had their SRS are still trans. That is incorrect because based on medical terms once our sex is aligned with our mind we are in essence cured. There is nothing we can "cross" over to because we have already made the crossing when we had SRS. The only other cross possible is back and that does not happen with those born transsexual.
The irony and villainy of their claims that we are always "trans" is lost on almost everyone and that includes many born transsexual and it is pathetic and sad. The position they are taking is identical to the position certain radical feminists and other people claiming we cannot change our sex have been pushing for years. They are enforcing the idea and the concept that we will "always" be male so we are and will "always" be "trans" so we should just get over it and identify ourselves as something less than female and a woman. Monica Roberts will always be male because Monica has a "dick" and she uses it as she has said many times on her blog.
They are giving ammunition to those that want us categorized and labeled as something we do not want to be, which is less than a female or a woman. They want us to be "less" so they can be more since a large percentage of them still pack a penis and the rest probably wish they still had theirs because actually having to live as a woman in a man's world without a crutch, like being "trans", is not something that fits in their view of themselves as a victim. Activists in the "trans" community need to remain victims otherwise they have no relevance. What relevance would they have if a law was passed that simply stated after SRS the individual is now legally the other sex and has all the rights of that sex in society?
In the Cristan Williams (CW) post CW goes into the definition of what it means to live that way and since she has not a single clue, she never has, she makes many assumptions that easily make an ass out of her but thankfully not me. People like CW and MR honestly believe they have the right to tell other people how to live their lives because they of course know what is right and nobody else could possibly have a clue. This has nothing to do with the rule of law of access to women's spaces but simple living one's life.
The following paragraph is from the CW post.
Stealth people say things like “I just want to get on with my life as the woman I am” – a sentiment that sounds rational enough on the surface. The problem with that sentiment is that it’s also a delusion. Stealth people rationalize their lies by believing that being trans was only a medical problem that was fixed – kind of like a cleft palate; purposefully pretending that there wasn’t a social transition that entailed violating numerous cultural norms. Stealth is purposefully taking away the choice of letting the people you claim to love the most decide if they are willing to take on the potential social costs (as unfair and stupid as those social costs might be) of breaking those backwards cultural norms by being with you. If you believe that it is only a medical condition, remember that I said that you’re delusional when your best friend, your husband or wife, your boyfriend or girlfriend, your adopted child, etc finds out that you lied about your social and medical history. Yes, it is a medical condition that should be treated medically, but to pretend that this medical condition is exactly like having laser eye surgery is nothing more than living in denial. Living an authentic life means having the courage to stand firmly on the ground on truth regardless of what stupid, moronic and asinine stereotypes and/or fears others may choose to cling to.CW is deliberately mixing certain concepts here but one can read this and realize CW does not believe this is a medical condition but a social condition complicated by a self perceived medical condition. CW attempts to cover her tracks later in the paragraph but you do not put "that" out there alone knowing how those born transsexual feel about it unless CW is dumber than a fence post which might actually be possible.
Ignore the word stealth and read that paragraph. Getting on with your life as the woman you are is not a delusion because CW seems to have forgotten that everyone transitions, breaks those cultural norms, faces their best friends and family, if married the wife and children if applicable. Some of us lived "out" in the open until we had SRS because we could not hide our obvious differences from other boys. I am sure CW never had to worry about that. CW also misses the simple point that universally, except for a rare few, we always tell the man we will marry and also misses the valuable point that we are not lying to our friends and others about our social and medical history because it never comes up because unlike you we fit into society as women, which is something neither CW or MR will ever do. I am sure in your world people ask about your "social" and "medical" history but in the real world that is not something anyone talks about. Living is more important. They talk about your social and medical history because it is quite obvious you are or once were male. It is a sad fact that you perpetrate on yourself by screaming at everyone that you are trans.
The pathetic analogy that SRS is like a cleft palate or laser eye surgery is quite telling about CW. Anyone that has gone through SRS would never and I mean NEVER be that flip about it because it is incredibly painful and the recovery time is extensive. I doubt CW has had SRS but I could be wrong.
Living an authentic life does not mean what CW claims it does. If in your heart and soul you are female then you are being true to yourself by living as the person you believe you should have been. It is your life to live and you deserve to live it as you see fit as long as you are not hurting others and these fallacious claims by clowns like NR and CW that somehow your life hurts the "trans" world makes the basic assumption that we are required to believe in the trans agenda and it assumes we accept the premise you represent us. You do not represent us and we do not buy the man in a dress is a woman because he says he is.
Those of us that survived simply melted into the real world, as was our right, and our wish. We all just needed to be girls so why would we want to be less and call ourselves trans when we have nothing left to cross? We crossed our bridge both medically and mentally but you MR never has and never will because MR is half and half while CW has certainly never crossed the mental hurdle and accepted herself as a female and a woman although I have doubts about SRS. The best MR can be considered is a she-male or a transvestite living full-time. I have a different assessment about what MR actually is later.The choice is yours.
You would love every stealth person to out themselves because then you can claim they are girls like you. MR is not a girl like Janet Mock because MNR is neither a woman nor post operative. You are a another transgender fool trying to ride the coattails of those born transsexual that corrected their birth defect and lived a life. Janet Mock has the right to out herself since she is obviously comfortable being a transwoman and thus less than a full woman although I will never view her as such since I feel it demeans her. She will always be a woman in my mind.
Luckily when I was kind of "out" I was able to realize the errors of my way and just vanish into the real world. That is something MR, CW, and their ilk will never know a thing about because they revel in being "different" which is odd because I thought the obvious idea was trying to become female or a woman. I guess you men get to change the rules so a woman can have a penis and balls. It must be another teaching moment.
My question to MR is how could any of us have been a role model to the transgendered since 95% of you want to keep your dick and balls? Were you hoping for fashion tips? God knows you could use a few. Were you looking for tips with men? Not sure how that works but my vagina is distinctly different that your dick from the view of all the straight men I have dated unlike the "straight men" you have entertained. Your ass does not qualify as a vagina!!
What I love about "trans" like MR is how you want to bring your misery to everyone's lives. You actually believe you are a role model which is beyond ridiculous. You are a professional transgender nitwit that honestly believes your views have validity with those born transsexual but nothing could be farther from the truth. You are simply another man in a dress pretending to be a woman while keeping their male parts because after all they give you pleasure. No female or woman alive would EVER think or feel that way. You are just another gay man in a dress trying to deny the truth so guess what? You are the one in the closet. That is from my friend Oscar who is about as gay as it comes and people in the gay community look at fools like you MR and just shake their head. Is their something wrong with admitting you are gay?
Personally I do not have any need nor do I wish to promote the agenda of men in dresses and any laws or effect you fools have helped pass were done with lies and misinformation because few of the idiots that helped realized they were dealing with transvestites although a Democratic organization in North Carolina actually did and told the individual to join the men's organization and I believe it was because he has a penis and does not intend to remove it and they found out and were shocked. Reality bites sometimes.
What is pathetically sad here is that none of you have a clue about what it was like back in the 60's. Suzan Cooke does but she has gone over to the dark side and now considers herself a "transwoman" which is odd since she was a female and a woman for a long time. I guess this is just another way to denigrate herself but despite our differences she is a woman whether she likes it or not and I will always consider her a female and a woman.
In many ways it was more dangerous but also simpler and better times in the 60's and early 70's. The gay men, the lesbians, the drag queens, and we transsexuals all got along extremely well and we supported each other. It was illegal to cross-dress in NYC and although many cops looked the other way, many did not. The clubs opened at 10 PM so you went home and took a nap and went out and partied until 4 PM. I learned to avoid the tranny clubs because they were dangerous and when I went out it was to the clubs where the crowd was a mixture of straight, celebrity, gay, drag, tranny, and lesbian. We all got along and our friendships crossed boundaries. I helped bail out more than a few that were arrested because they were friends.
Back then the goal of everyone born transsexual was to blend into society and live as a girl and a woman. If that is not the logical conclusion for the nightmarish ride those of us born transsexual have survived then why were we doing it? We lived this nightmare so we could reach our dream and then walk into the nightmare of having everyone know of our past so we can "support" a group of men in dresses and their "social" need to cross-dress? I and others were supposed to travel that road again because some dipshit activist can tell the world "they are the same as I am" when there is nothing that can or could be farther from the truth. Our only common thread is we belong to the same species although sometimes I wonder.
I have lived and worked as a woman for basically all of my adult life and my friends have done the same. We owe the "trans" community not a damn thing although we do owe kids like us and we have repaid that debt many times over. I have had no need to set precedents for other transsexuals because we all recognized that after our SRS we were fledgling girls and anything we went through after that was worth it a million times over. Your problem, both of you, is that under no circumstances can you or are you capable of standing on your own as a girl or a woman because you have no clue what it means to truly live as a woman. You live with the crutch of being "trans" because it makes things easier and that is the truth whether you can or will ever admit it to yourself.
Assimilation into the world of women is not a given it is something you learn and earn over time and neither of you have the capacity or willingness to do that. I have never not been hired because I was once transsexual but I have not been hired because I was a woman. I have never been discriminated against because I was once transsexual but I have been discriminated against because I was a woman. I have never been denied a promotion because I was once transsexual but I have because I was a woman.
I am Welsh so I don't get too mad I just get even. The Company that reused to hire me I put out of business working for a rival. I beat the place that discriminated against me and beat them badly. I quit the Company that denied me a promotion because John had a family and need the position by resigning and since I was the only one that understood the overall design and complexity of a product they had to come to me for help. I gave them no notice and left immediately so they had no chance to drain my brain on the subject. I fought my battles as a woman and I won some and I lost a lot but I fought them as a woman and am proud of that. CW and MR fight battles for men's rights to pretend they are women and infringe on the few privileges we have. How very male of you!
I can honestly say I rarely ever thought of the past because it was over and I was free. Even when helping the young transsexuals we focused on their future. I know about my past and I recognize its difficulties and the trauma it caused me and I caused my family but why would I dwell on it? Living in the past is not productive to a well lived life because regret is a big part of the past for everyone. I deal with the past if it comes up but I live for the now. I write this blog because I have opinions and I intend to put them out there.
If you want to be "out" it is your right but it is also my right to live a quiet and peaceful life. When you read MR and CW talk about stealth it reeks of sour grapes because it was never something they could pull off because it requires one to actually "be" a female and a woman rather than "pretend" to be a female and a woman. They are lying to themselves and to everyone in their so-called "trans" world when denouncing those of us that are not "out and proud" because I certainly never found anything prideful or enjoyable about being born transsexual. I found it painful, nightmarish, and conceptually I never understood why I was just not born a girl. I shed a lot of tears like my friends did and I hurt beyond hurt watching girls do what I wanted so badly. Why would I give that up?
The best day of my life was in that hospital room when I woke up and Dr. Benjamin was there and simply said, "it is over" and I had a good cry for the joy of the moment. It was over because I was finally me and now I read some dipshits telling me that somehow I am less because I MUST identify as "trans". There are few things more FUBAR than that stupid and idiotic belief.
The following passage from CW says it all.
Being a transwoman and being a ciswoman are just two somewhat different ways of arriving at being a woman; living stealth supports the bogus idea that you’re not really a woman and you must therefore hide the truth from discovery.Actually CW you have it reversed but then you know that. Living as a transwoman is not akin to being a woman and although we born transsexual follow a more difficult path to be women the aim is to be accepted as a ciswoman. calling yourself a "transwoman" implies you are different than a woman and emphasizes there is a difference. I am a woman and there is nothing trans about any part of my life. This is just another attempt by men to force their maleness on women as equivalency. A vagina is not a penis regardless of how it is constructed.
You do not have to be beautiful to be a woman. You do not have to pass particularly well to be a woman. What you have to do is accept yourself as a female, a woman and accept what life brings you as a woman. That is not easy for men since they control most of the world both politically and business wise. Being "out and proud" allows them to control their worlds and being "transwomen" allows them to control the narrative and scream transphobia if someone so much as farts in their direction. They keep the jobs they had as men. They want to keep the wife because after all she is a possession and are upset if it fails and of course blame the wife for not "understanding" that even if they are 55 they have "no choice" because they were born this way. Not true but then they rarely deal with the truth head on.
The true delusion is the belief people like MR and CW actually have a clue about being women. It goes right along with the maleness of believing that if they wear a dress and decent wig they are woman. Only a man could promote that delusion. Only a man could promote the delusion that it is just as good to be a "transwoman" as a woman because they are promoting the idea and belief that a man in a dress with his penis is just as much of a woman as any woman which is complete and utter bullshit and in this case the "bull" part of "bullshit" fits appropriately.