I have no illusions that I am some leading expert on being born transsexual and I do not want to be involved in deciding who is and isn’t transsexual. I really find the entire scene a pain in the ass. I do not believe any transsexual whether they are post GRS or before GRS has the right to tell any other person how to live their life.
I look at my life quite simply. I was; I won; and I am.
I was born transsexual; I transitioned and had surgery; and I have become the girl I thought I was and the woman I wanted to be over time. It is really and truly that simple.
Most people are just happy to get through this crap and come out the other side whole. They may comment on the internet but they have no desire to be professional anything and certainly not self proclaimed experts on who is and who is not transsexual and it does not matter the age of the transition and surgery if applicable. Having a decent life is all they want.
I understand how love can bind people together for a lifetime.
I realize a confused and hiding transsexual can marry; have children; and be so in love they stay together. I may never truly understand things like this because it was not me but I cannot deny people happiness by denying them
I realize it must be horrible to be married; have to leave your spouse to be you; and the pain one must feel leaving your children. I will never know that feeling because that was not me but I cannot deny people happiness by denying them.
I realize a transsexual can have surgery and can be gay if FTM and lesbian if MTF. Sexual preference is mutually exclusive with gender identity. I will never know that feeling because that is not me but I cannot deny them their happiness by denying them.
I realize transsexuals can be trapped and especially from my generation wait until they are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s before they take action. Being transsexual is a complicated happening and is not something anyone in their sane mind chooses. I will never know that feeling because that was not me but I cannot deny them their happiness by denying them.
I realize an MTF transsexual can love a man before surgery and the pure joy of the acceptance one feels when a man loves you for the girl you are even if you were married as a man or dated women. I know parts of these feelings but not all of them but I cannot deny someone happiness by denying them.
I realize there are non-op transsexuals. I will never understand why one of them would run around screaming I have a penis if they want to be accepted as a woman. I know nothing of this because I was certainly never one.
I believe being transsexual is not simply a black and white issue. There are grey areas and I believe Benjamin had a better grasp on the differences than anyone ever but if somebody has a better answer I am open to understanding it but I am not open to total bullshit.
Unfortunately it is not that simple for a lot of people in this so called Trans community. There are some that believe it is their right to judge everyone and the pure irony of it is most of the people doing the judging fall into a rather unusual category and I find it very interesting and disturbing.
According to them I wasn’t, I didn’t, and I am not. According to them a lot of my readers fall into the: you weren’t; you didn’t; and you never will be.
Quite conveniently they fall into their own special category. They were the only ones; are the only winners; and are the only women. How convenient.
It must be amazing to be that omnipotent.