The I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express Syndrome

In the mid-2000s, Holiday Inn Express began producing humorous television commercials featuring "average Joes" performing extraordinary activities that only experts would know. The concept attributes these exaggerated abilities to the fact that they "stayed at a Holiday Inn Express last night". The campaign reflects the brand's slogan "Stay Smart" which is still in use today.

The joke is ordinary people feel they are smart because they stayed at a Holiday Inn Express and it gives them special mental powers and can do complicated things like tinker with a deadly virus, fly a commercial airliner, and be smart about something even though you are really an idiot. All in all inside the US it is a very funny set of ads and has become a part of our culture not unlike the "where's the beef" commercials with the old lady. Well it has taken on overtones that are a little more sinister. Here is a quote from one of the people running  T-Central:

I want to start this off with a disclaimer: I have not begun to transition.  I have never been on hormones.  I rarely crossdress.  I'm transgender.

But I do know a lot of crossdressers and transsexuals and many of those have shared very intimate thoughts with me.

They should have started with;  I stayed at a Holiday Inn Express so I am qualified to write an article on transitioning smart.

Ok, let me get this straight. I do not want any errors here or any misconceptions. 

1. They have not begun transition.

2. They have never been on hormones.

3. They have rarely crossdressed.

4. They are transgendered. Well you might have that part right.

5. I know lots of crossdressers. What does this have to do with transition?

6. I know lots of transsexuals.  Really? SO your version of the Holiday Inn Express experience and JOKE is some of your so called pals on T-Central.

This is the ultimate act of hubris by someone that has not one single inkling about what it means to not only be transsexual but to live it and fight your way to get things correct. You KNOW nothing unless you have lived it. Just another example of a man thinking he can tell those born transsexual what it is all about.

You should ban yourself from T-Central you arrogant fool.

The worst part is you are not even close to the worst of your group.

I am baffled by the TV, CD, and non transitioned crowd

I am amused at the transvestite, cross-dresser, and non-transitioned transgender crowd as they prattle on about "passing privilege" and "gold standard transsexuals" and yada, yada, yada. yada, and more yadas. Like others with fetishes they see themselves as being "part" of the community that is transsexual. Ah, no you are not.

We have late 50's men announcing they are transitioning and of course they know immediately all things womanly and begin to preach to all and humorously accuse those that have walked the entire path "men" when in simple point of fact they are "still" men. That is typical male privilege at its finest. I have a tally-whacker so I know more about being a woman than any woman could possibly know and then of course they throw out the "you are not a woman" claim as they get excited in the wife's panties.

On the other hand they actually may be transsexual but the first rule is you know nothing of this path until you have walked it. Walk it, get your surgery and then live for a while.  Talk about transition if you want "once you start" transition and just remember your transvestite forays into the "real" world do not count. You should be asking question and not answering them or offering opinions on subjects you have no firsthand knowledge of.

There is an "angry cross-dresser" spouting off about "passing privilege" and the "gold standard" transsexual which is akin to a fence post attempting to discuss "special relativity" with Einstein. The ironic part is they actually think they have the right. Simply put, you are playing a game you silly little boy.  Your game is wearing girls clothes and pretending to emulate women.  If things do not work out so well on a foray into life as a girl you can just go back to being the guy you are and always will be. You have a safety net that is not available to those truly born transsexual so STFU.

Simply put passing is important to "most" transsexuals.  Some of us are lucky and some not so lucky. It is the seedy sad side of this tragedy of being born transsexual. FFS can cure some of the issues but not all of them. Transvestites and cross-dressers want to be protected so they can play out their little fetish fantasy on the "real" streets of life just like transsexuals. Again you are playing a game and transsexuals are living a life they have no choice over.

This has just happened actually.  One person "announced" his de-transition and closed his blog down but re-opened it at the suggestion of a friend.  Now, why anyone needs to read about some fool that made a mistake is beyond me but compounding the mistake of growing breasts, hormones are good at that, and getting a female driver's license ( a travesty IMHO) and then deciding to transition back to male and then discuss it all and also give advice to everyone on all subjects related to transsexual issues is to put it mildly weird. Unless he is trying to warn other transvestites not to go down his path he should slink into fairytale land with the rest of the fetish crowd.

I will always be baffled why people who have never walked this path or have not even started it think they have even the remotest idea what is involved. Talk about the blind attempting to lead the way!

I will always be baffled how some late transitioner suddenly decides they are a feminist when if their male life was examined they would probably be classified as assholes to women. Even if they were not they excelled with "male privilege" and know nothing of what we women fought to get against that male privilege.

I will always be baffled why transvestites and cross-dressers think transsexuals have anything in common with them. Well we are all homo sapiens although sometimes i wonder.


I will always be baffled why people talk about transsexual issues like they pertain to transvestites, cross-dressers, and gender variant people. They do not but then nobody can convince a fool of anything. It is why they are fools.

I am baffled how GLAAD gets to decide what words are pejoratives. Transvestite is not a pejorative but then why would a fetish bound fool want to be reminded of it. "Tranny" is a pejorative but just a slight clue.  Tranny is solely for the use of transsexuals and not for the transvestite/trans crowd. Get your own world.

I am baffled why we must use she and her for transvestites and cross-dressers and not doing so is derogatory. Are you not still men? Does playing girl mean you are a girl?  I think not. Doing so insults us women.

I am baffled by the people that seem to need a built in excuse for transitioning. It is like a kid telling the teacher "his dog ate his homework".  Actually the dog excuse has a higher probability of being true than the bee-sting and sudden feminization gang.  I did notice there was another sudden feminizing incident. Is it not odd these incidents all happen with married men with children that need the excuse? Silly me.

I am baffled when i read of the sudden onset of transsexualism.  The DSM made this possible when it catered to the "super transvestite" crowd that needed an excuse late in life to go "all the way". They only need to have felt "gender identity issues for several years.  How convenient that is and how profitable that is for all the shrinks and money men in the business of sex changes. One does not suddenly become transsexual. One is born transsexual .

I am baffled that we have not had someone have a partial liver transplant or a kidney transplant come forward and claim they were from a woman and made them transsexual. It seems like a built in "foolproof" excuse for some.

I am baffled when I read claims of sudden feminization and then see pictures of said "suddenly feminized" man and they are as feminine as a 300 pound defensive lineman in the NFL with a face to match. One must wonder if the little boobies that "might" have grown resulted from some clandestine purchase of hormones considering not one of the cases has been legitimately verified.  One must wonder why those men feminized by working in birth control pill factories didn't en mass run out and get sex changes.  Now that is a little odd isn't it.

I am baffled why everyone is so enthralled by gender bender models. A little clue. It happened in the 60s, 70s, 80s, and will continue to happen. It is what it is and will be that way until the fashionistas decide curves on women actually matter.

I am still baffled why so many transsexuals end up lesbian. Then again if one has been a woman for 40+ years and listened to men talk there may be a reason.  Men are obsessed with girl on girl action. I cannot tell you how many times over the years when girl friends and I hugged that some guy commented "maybe we will get some lesbian action" in many variations.  Men are fascinated and obsessed by it. Maybe it is another transvestite fantasy for a heterosexual transvestite to get "really" into some good lesbian action. by physically being one of the lesbians. Most lesbians are not fond of MTF lesbians.  I wonder why?

I am baffled why I am even baffled by all of this. Jerry Springer has made a fortune out of all of this. Kind of sad but predictable.

Medical or Mental?

Is this a medical condition or a mental condition? I guess I am one of the people claiming that a lot of the later transitioners and even others have created a dichotomy in whether this is truly medical or mental. I think the issue is not that someone is a late transitioner.  It is the simple fact in this day and age there are too many late transitioners and too many transitioners period that are lesbian.

If one is truly born with a female brain then that problem is there from early on and should be set around puberty until somewhere in the mid to late teens. Many people can fool themselves into doing certain things I will never understand but that does not mean I hate them but I do tend to judge the ones I am forced to deal with individually. The simple truth is you either are born transsexual or you are not.  If you believe this then we have a problem in the transsexual community.

Now I realize people vehemently disagree with this but it is quite simple and undeniable. If our brains are truly female at birth then our sexual preference should mirror that of genetic women. Anyone that says otherwise is denying that this is a medical condition and implying it is mental.

Over 50%, U of Minn study, of transitioners are lesbian in our current time period. That means approx 4 out of every 5 are  either frauds or this is not a medical condition. Whether one wants to admit it or not sexual preference is eventually part of being a woman and being female at birth should set our percentages to mirror genetic women. This is an undeniable fact and even if the percentages change minimally it simply shows a lot of heterosexual men are living a fantasy and becoming women to live a lesbian lifestyle which is fine by me except for the simple fact it denies transsexualism as a medical condition.

Take your choice folks. If all the transitioners that are lesbian are truly transsexual then this is not a medical condition. You cannot have it both ways. There are many that would like to make the claim that sexual partner preference is not associated with being born transsexual and thus would then deny the fact that being a girl has no relationship with sex partner choice.  It does whether you want to believe it or not. It is part of being a girl.

I say we have a medical condition which means I have issues with the many transitioners that are lesbian as in the fact too many transitioners and transsexuals are lesbian. Maybe it is the classic case of the heterosexual transvestite needing to take the sexual buzz to the next level and that means claiming transsexual or maybe it is something else but something is wrong in the world of transsexuals and it is not the transsexuals it is the pretenders.

Attempted Intimidation by someone at The Tanssexual Menace

 Anne at Ella es asi  received the  comment from our favorite anonymous turd who claims to be part of The Transsexual Menace. I have posted it below and sort of formatted it into paragraphs but I believe all of you need to know everything in the comment is the fantasy of an exceedingly ill person.


The traffic report DOES NOT put a cookie on your computer that I or anyone can obtain information from that would result in anyone being "outed". What is displayed is the ip address of your ISP or internet provider.  Your home Ip address is private and unavailable to anyone. Cookies cannot access your network card and obtain your local ip address and even if they could it would tell them nothing about you because it is private. You are as safe as I am.


This is a clear attempt to intimidate and or bully people into believing the lies of some rather pathetic little worm that claims to be in Stratford NC. If one could break into the ISP it would be possible to locate one of us but they would need to know our private ip address which would require them knowing your full name. It is a federal crime to do any of the above so I cordially invite this little worm to visit me in North Carolina since "it" seems to think it knows where I live. Please come and visit me but just a little "clue".  I do not live in Concord, NC.  My ISP and my DNS server are in Concord or sometimes bumped to Charlotte. Just a little "Fun Fact" for your turd brain.


As for Google map that is interesting because my home is brand spanking new and less than  18 months old and there is no goggle map that shows my house in the town where I live but you be sure to bring your little gender-queer ass and whichever gender appearance mommy will let your appear as once you stop breast-feeding and come on down if you really think you know where I live and who I am.


Some little fruitcake like you talks a big game with a really big mouth so I am saying bring it on you pathetic worthless gender-queer freak. Now take your little gender-queer self and shove it up your butt. I take that back.  That is probably your preferred form of sex.

Hi, it's me again with some "Fun Facts" for all you ladies, and, oh heck, even you too, Liz. First, you should never use 3rd party web traffic widgets like "Feedjit" (like Liz does on her page), because it can work both ways - that is, if you know what your doing. It can leave you open and exposed to a privacy invasion. Every person that has logged onto Liz's page, has all had their IP tracked. Anyone, (myself included) can locate you. 

This leads us to Fun Fact #2 Did you know Concord NC is less than a stones throw from Stratford NC? In fact, if one was so inclined, one could take a trip there and, hey, maybe run into an "old friend". Yes, you just never know whom you might meet there, or on the way, or in between, or even nearby. Lastly. Fun fact#3 Time Warner's Road Runner service is probably one of the most insecure networks there is. This is due in part (actually for the most part) to their clients IP D-Slam modem's MAC address are wide open on RR. With little effort, one could be traced RIGHT TO the client location. Repair techs use this technique all the time to trouble shoot users that have been victim of having their modem's MAC Address cloned by a hacker that obtained an existing clients account info, via unsecured widgets like Liz uses. 

So, “thanks” Liz, for exposing each of your readers to a potential privacy invasion by installing a 3rd party widget at the bottom of your page that actually does more than just track them. It also installs a cookie on their computer and monitors their traffic usage, reporting back to the developers of the widget, each and everyone’s most private information. If someone was savvy, they might intercept that information, and… well, they could be posted publicly for all to see. Imagine how sensitive THIS could be for people in our community. Oh wait, what am I talking about? What community? None of you have anything to hide. You are all REAL women. No one would care if YOUR LIFE was an open book on the internet for eveyone to digest, or maybe even look you up and find you or your relatives. Would you? I’m not trying to scare anyone here. Just consider this a friendly piece of advice. Be careful. Btw have you ever seen your house on a Google map? It truly is amazing what you can find on the internet, and even more amazing what county records are available. I've been having fun with this, looking up an old friend in the south east. Fascinating. Well, ta ta “ladies.

Just a little "Fun Fact" worm boy. You do not know me and never have. Like I said you are welcome to visit if mommy will let you out.

The Transexual Menace

It looks like the Transsexual Menace has decided to take a stake in T-Central.  Based on comments on Anne's blog I am beginning to think her removal or banning from T-Central was part of a plan by Transgender Menace, a more apt name, to infiltrate the list and impose their ill-advised, ultra liberal and ultra confrontational mindset on T-Central.

I actually remember when Transexual Menace arrived on the scene in the early nineties with Riki Wilchins. Riki was at least initially transsexual and according to Riki post op. Well Riki is now a proponent of the non-binary and gender queer and never says so but must believe they made a mistake getting surgery if in fact they ever did. Riki Wilchins just looks, dresses , and acts like a man. In fact Riki has a one whatever show called the Mangina Monologues and refuses to identify with either the male or female gender in this Innovators interview.

Riki Wilchins made a mistake getting SRS and now s/he wants to make sure everyone who is transsexual pays for it through her/his pain. She believes transsexuals, transvestites, gender-queer etc. are one and the same. S/he also considers herself a feminist although not identifying with the gender binary female role. I disagree with Riki Wilchins on a lot of things but the one thing I will never disagree with he/she is they are a Menace.

Riki Wilchins is what the term professional "tranny" was intended to describe back in my time.  We had them even by the early 70's. In actuality Riki is a professional "gender-queer" and I would have zero problems with that except Riki believes transsexuals should never be stealth and can never pass probably because Riki looks like an effeminate gay man.

Riki wants everyone under the transgender banner included in all legislation which includes the right to display the gender of your choice whenever you feel like it at work. I do agree with Riki that everyone regardless of status should be able to lead their lives safely and be happy but I do believe there are some limits required.

Riki has actually pretended to represent transsexuals for a long time with the express intent of destroying the individuality of transsexuals and the fact we are decidedly different than everyone else under the transgender umbrella whether we are stealth and pass or are out and cannot pass which is her/his problem.

Congratulations are in order for T-Central management and in particular Melissa for bringing these fools into any T-Central debate. If you think Anne or I can be politically incorrect then wait until they take over T-Central.

Riki Wilchins and her ilk are not representative of anything transsexual because s/he never was. Just what transsexuals of any era need is this kind of representation and now it has invaded T-Central. Whether it is Riki or one of hir pathetic underlings no transsexual will utter a word on their watch that contradicts their views.

I will never understand.

I will never understand late transitioners. 

I will never understand how someone that is a Type V transsexual or a woman trapped in a man's body can marry and father children if they are a woman?

I will never understand why some late transitioning man can suddenly believe he understands all things female just because he is transitioning.

I will never understand why late transitioners actually believe they are role models and want to be out in front representing transsexuals. In my opinion you are the entire perception problem transsexuals have.  Kim Petras can be a role model. Ashley Prince can be a positive role model. Late transitioners cannot be role models. Nobody believes their reasoning whether it is actually truthful or not.  It is just so odd.

I will never understand why MTF late transsexuals are hurt because the wife takes the kids and walks out. What do you expect them to to do? I guess they should jump for joy that they can now have a perceived lesbian relationship with the man they once loved.

I will never understand why late transitioners have such a high percentage of lesbians. If your mind is truly feminine then the percentages should be reasonably close to the percentage of the cis women that are lesbian.  Why are close to 50% of late transitioners lesbian.  Could it be because they were never transsexual and alwasy were and still are heterosexual men.

I will never understand how some late transitioners wife can stay with him but I think I have their reasoning. If the wife has a career she is probably gone. Maybe some are in abusive relationships and afraid of the new girly husband. A normal relationship involves love and sex plus a healthy friendship and if the sex is long since gone maybe love and friendship cause them to stay.  As long as they have no issues being perceived as a lesbian then I guess it can happen.

I will never understand why someone posts as Anonymous and believes they have credibility but then they are obviously fearful of letting anyone know who they really are.

I will never understand how a parent abandons their children.

I will never understand how any late transitioner can rationalize that transitioning in front of their children is not harmful or painful to a child. They never should have married in the first place.

I am not sure I want to understand much of this either.  I read the reasons and the rationale for doing what they do and I am sure for many it is the only way to survive being transsexual. I read it in their painful posts and comments. The ones that irritate me are the ones that are upset the wife is hurt or the children react hurtfully.

Banned in Boston and elsewhere!

This is one of those times I wished I still lived in Massachusetts. I could make the silly claim I was  Banned in Boston. From Wikipedia:

"Banned in Boston" was a phrase employed from the late 19th century through the mid-20th century to describe a literary work, motion picture, or play prohibited from distribution or exhibition in Boston, Massachusetts. During this period, Boston officials had wide authority to ban works featuring "objectionable" content, and often banned works with sexual or foul language.

Well I actually never lived in Boston but quite close during my childhood. This blog is certainly not a literary work, motion picture or play but it must have been objectionable to them based on sexual content or my occasional foul language. Sometimes the only way a woman can get something across in the male dominated worlds I worked in  was to tell them to fuck off. Not much different at time on T-central.

They have every right to remove my link since they started the listing. In case you do not know who they are let me tell you who the moderators are.

Ariel - Started her transition at 53. I was born transsexual. It took a while, but I finally dealt with it. Successfully. :) This is from her blog. Married and still living with the wife.

Renee - Hasn't blogged in a long time. Nothing about who or what Renee is. May be post op.

Karen - Perth, Scotland. This is what his blog says. The assorted ramblings and confused writings of a man who thinks he should be a woman but wants to remain a husband and dad. Confused? Not compared to me you're not.... Early Forties transgendered person who 'came out' at home after really struggling with an explosion of gender dysphoria in 2008/9. Still fighting the inner confusion the condition brings and trying my best to remain a husband and dad to the best 2 kids and best wife in the world whilst seeking treatment for the condition. I find the honesty refreshing.


Halle - Just a nom de plume for this Lady and Gentleman, both and neither - an evolving person. J'écris, donc j'existe! Married with at least one child.

Calie - I'm trans, non-transitioning, MtF, currently living in California, although I have lived many other places. I'm happily married. I love people, and enjoy meeting folks from around the world. I gather Callie is the head honcho based on comments in an email from Ariel which never did explain why I was banned.

I am back under attack by one courageous Anonymous poster, sarcasm intended, with many of the same accusations I received from a combination of Aria Blue, ATG, and others. None of it true but that rarely matters but it is good for a laugh.

I am not going anywhere so let the men in dresses bring it on. Funny isn't it that the moderators from T-Central are all married with children, not sure about Renee, and the only post one started transition at 53. Transgender Central would be a better name.