tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post7618276574221547774..comments2023-04-26T23:19:46.504-04:00Comments on Notes from the T side: Human Rights Transgender StyleElizabethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17931270965200576249noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-60165842751290739842012-02-01T20:21:25.844-05:002012-02-01T20:21:25.844-05:00It may not be realised by some younger folk that t...It may not be realised by some younger folk that the world was a quite different place 50 years ago, especially where issues of sexual identity are concerned. <br />You have NO idea how it was.... I knew I was a girl inside by about the age of 6 (could have been earlier, but I remember the feelings from that time quite vividly), but in the 1940's in post war Britain there was NO opportunity, medically or socially, to do anything about it. <br />So you 'bury' it, and unless you are the agressive personality type (I'm not), you do as society dictated because the consequences of not doing so were dire, potentially fatal in fact.<br />Once committed to doing what 'they' want, one takes on obligations as part of being convincing, and I was brought up to honour any contract into which I entered. I did that as best I could, not very well at times I might add, and saw the contract through as a rather indifferent parent (could have been worse I guess.... femininity makes one basically nurturing).<br />For someone born 40 years later than I and who knows nothing of my environment, to make sweeping statements about how I, or others like me, ought to have acted is presumptuous at best, and arrogant at worst.<br />When I was free to do so, having discharged my obligations to the best of my ability, I started the process of removing the innate incongruence of body and mind that had bedevilled me for so many years. <br />I have done that to the limits of my ability/finances.<br />So don't you dare make assumptions about lives and environments about which you know nothing, based on some theory from a book.<br />I am not transgendered, and never was; I still have the gender (sexual identity) I was born with.... I have a transsexual history, true.... I am a woman (albeit with one or two differences to my sisters born with two X chromosomes)..... End of story.... Put labels on it you like, it changes nothing...........Kathrynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-16631915532402957672012-01-16T16:32:50.500-05:002012-01-16T16:32:50.500-05:00My ex & I are best friends as it has been for ...My ex & I are best friends as it has been for the past 41 years. I am blessed with a wonderful son, daughter-in-law, and grandson. My in-laws know about my past, and it has never been an issue. I am "aunt June" to everyone else. I am not an "in your face person". I've learned to give and take like anyone else.<br /><br />I was extremely lucky in that I was able to live "fulltime" without hormones. If I hadn't, then perhaps I wouldn't be here telling you this. After the "awakening", life changed for me "that" drastically.<br /><br />I was lucky to have, after SRS, my birth certificate completely redone. It is often not the case with many. I was the first in CT to have it done for me.<br /><br />I am not transsexual, neither am I transgender, nor any other thing, but "myself". I am not "doomed" to be stuck under that "umbrella".<br /><br />Many of the activists are still under "that umbrella". The famous ones such as "Lynn, Andrea, and Calpernia" are dedicated to remain there. They do not publicly regret it, nor does it seem they would ever. That does not mean that you, or I are under that umbrella, unless we feel the need to be there too.<br /><br />A long while back I gave you my tel #. At that time I trusted you enough to do it. It would have resolved more than your doubt about me, or why some people transition late in life, although of course, it would not account for everyone.Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451928165045221279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-88272859174294534442012-01-16T16:22:59.019-05:002012-01-16T16:22:59.019-05:00@June
No offense June but a Type VI does not have...@June<br /><br />No offense June but a Type VI does not have an awakening. 100% Psycho Sexual Inversion does not hide itself nor does it allow itself to be pushed into the background and then come forward later in life. That is classic Type V.<br /><br />Your GID clinic was basing your diagnosis on your narrative and their incorrect understanding of what defines a Type VI. A Type VI MTF "believes" they are a girl and that never leaves you.<br /><br />I believe you were a Type V which is just as bad as Type VI but different.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931270965200576249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-30605602801464512512012-01-16T16:11:43.567-05:002012-01-16T16:11:43.567-05:00I don't wish to make this about me, but you &a...I don't wish to make this about me, but you & I have issues between us. Please give me the benefit of the doubt, and I will do likewise for you. <br /><br />The intervention of the TG umbrella created a lot of problems for people in transition who just wished to live normal lives.<br /><br />After my "awakening" I spent countless moments trying to resolve personal issues that involved family. I didn't need to learn how to be me, although I did need time to learn that living in a "woman's world" was not about being "privileged". It was about shedding old habits, and adjusting that image I felt inside to the one that others expected if I were to sincerely be successful living in a "man's world".<br /><br />more....Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451928165045221279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-3847234650123374262012-01-16T15:56:56.340-05:002012-01-16T15:56:56.340-05:00I am not transsexual. I've been through all t...I am not transsexual. I've been through all that. I was classified having been a type VI by a very well established GID clinic. I went through many hours of tests. I didn't need to prove it to myself.<br /><br />I testified because I was asked to. They needed my input, and I needed to vent. At the time of the incident I was very close to wanting to commit suicide.<br /><br />I am hoping that you will one day understand why some people had no choice other than to transition late. The book "True Selves" dealt with those issues, including people who experience an "awakening", which is often the result of hiding it within us, or denying our own truth for too long.<br /><br />My awakening was not something made up. I could not believe that something like that could happen to me, but luckily, it did.Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451928165045221279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-5312699806772468512012-01-16T15:30:04.065-05:002012-01-16T15:30:04.065-05:00@June
Several comments.
1. If you wanted "...@June<br /><br />Several comments. <br /><br />1. If you wanted "privacy" then why would you testify at such a hearing?<br /><br />There were many others in Connecticut willing to testify I am sure. It was brave of you regardless.<br /><br />2. I am continually astounded you actually believe you were a Type VI transsexual. You were a Type V because no Type VI transsexual would ever reach 50+ like you before coming to grips with it. It does not make you any less transsexual than me or anyone else. The simple truth is Type VI rarely make it past 30 and the oldest I have ever know was 37 but she was a victim of a repressive government.<br /><br />Using transgender in any bill is a mechanism to allow those not transsexual to garner protection and "right" they do not deserve. That is my issue.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17931270965200576249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-39150430024803926332012-01-16T13:15:17.030-05:002012-01-16T13:15:17.030-05:00Explaining away the issue of whether or not a pers...Explaining away the issue of whether or not a person is Transsexual, or "something else", does not define an individual, or their present state. We don't need more "Labels".<br /><br />Again, "we don't need more "Labels". It appears that the general public is capable of being more understanding than some people who feel that they are "doomed" to remain under the TG umbrella. Some people need to move on.....<br /><br /><br />JuneHJunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451928165045221279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-944795231126319421.post-3962283863567738002012-01-16T13:14:42.027-05:002012-01-16T13:14:42.027-05:00http://www.cga.ct.gov/2004/jfr/h/2004HB-05657-R00J...http://www.cga.ct.gov/2004/jfr/h/2004HB-05657-R00JUD-JFR.htm<br /><br /><br />You asked for a Bill. I testified at my State Legislature two years in a row. The first year there were very few of us. I cried during my long testimony. Afterwards a reporter from the Hartford Currant wanted my story. I told him, "for privacy reasons, that I'd rather not".<br /><br />The Bill was not passed the first year because, you see, it was not written up as a Bill that solely addressed Transgender issues. The Bill was about harassment. and other Hate Crimes. It addressed male & female gender, assumed gender, gender presentation, personal appearance (such as being physically deformed), and it also addressed the Handicapped, and others who could not defend their Human Rights because of the loopholes in the Law, and because of the ominous threat of violence, which unfortunately still exists.<br /><br />The Bill was rejected the first year. It was rejected because of "wording" based on "Handicapped issues".<br /><br />The following year, we had a much better backing, which included a Police Chief, and School Officials. Once again I told my story. I relived the horror all over again, not for my benefit, but for the benefit of others. I believe that is the reason we were all there.<br /><br />Before I spoke, the President of the Handicapped Assoc. came to speak. She was no taller than up to my knees, and she came to the podium driving in her own personal miniature car...made for her. She spoke of unimaginable acts of hate. I felt very small in stature compared to the courage of that woman who talked of things so unthinkable.<br /><br />Then it became my turn. I spoke of the attack of the rapist, my 911 call afterwards, and how the police arrested "me" instead, and interrogated me, calling me a prostitute, and demeaned the value of my own life. Luckily that night, the booking officer called for an ambulance, and I was given safe haven at a nearby hospital.<br /><br />I didn't cry as much as I did the first time, in that I finally realized that it wasn't all about me. They thanked me for speaking. Late on, one of the Representatives made a comment using the word "Transgender" wrongly. I raised my hand, and explained that is was only an umbrella term. I explained the varied levels, and the vast differences. I told them what was the truth, in that I was classified as a "Type VI TS", and that I am no longer, in as I completed transition after having my SRS 14 from the onset of transition. I looked around, and saw several Representatives from the previous session with puzzled looks on their faces. One spoke out, and asked, "Are you a woman, or are you a Transsexual? They had no idea. They thought I was just a female exposing my horror story. I chuckled inside, but then realized that I really would rather that they all didn't know my past. Hopefully that revelation changed their opinions, and became part of the reason the Bill was finally passed.<br /><br />Liz, I am sorry that you would bring this up as this time, but I hope you will some to realize who easy it is to assume something, when in fact, the truth is not in the beholder, but those beholden to the truth.<br /><br />When I testified, I was assumed to be female. I knew who I was. There was no need to explain that to anyone, but the issue wasn't about me, nor was it about my interpretation of how others see me. <br /><br />Whether or not I was "assumed" to be whatever anyone wished to label me, it wasn't about being anything one way or the other, except in that it was about how we are treated. The Bill was passed. Now, we as citizens of our State can hopefully feel better protected, even if it does not eliminate Hate Crimes from reoccurring.<br /><br />continued....Junehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14451928165045221279noreply@blogger.com